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Mysteries, polka dots, California Rolls, TJ Maxx, cozy blankets, rainy days and getting the first spoonful of peanut butter out of the jar make me smile. Spiders, rude people, cold fingers and toes, baby leashes, people that don't wrap their packages before going to the Post Office, poison ivy and Math (pretty much all of it) make me want to scream. My perfect day would be spent with my wonderful husband and sweet girls- watching movies in our jammies! Of course, having the movie theater to ourselves would be great, too. Please pass the popcorn and M&M's.:) I am saved by the grace of God. He is my constant companion and hears my every prayer. What a blessing! I'd love to hear from you! Lori at toosillysisters@cox.net

Saturday, April 21, 2012

What will people think?

Siblings are our first friends.
Whether we like it or not.:)

Then, our world expands to include other people.
New friends.
It's easy, at first...

We must learn to trust, though.
We have to have faith that friends won't mislead us or hurt us.

But sometimes, we still get hurt.

My girls are oh so trusting, but then so am I.
We want to see the best in others and in return we want them to see the best in us.

Last night our home was filled with drama over a split second decision that turned out to be a big mistake.  Darn facebook.

It reminded me of a choice I made many years ago that involved a very close friend of mine.  A dear friend who was head over heels in love with her first boyfriend- ever.  She was making bad decisions that involved lying, alcohol and me.  Keep in mind that I was a very good girl and a good friend. Still am;)

My parents were out of town and I was having a friend spend the night with me.  Well, after work late one night (I worked at the movie theater) we pulled up to my house.  There, on the front lawn was my friend, Jane, and her boyfriend- both intoxicated.  Jane's parents had moved and she was supposed to be staying with a friend for a week.  Turns out she was staying with Troy, her boyfriend.  Wha??  I didn't know that part!

They were dropped off at my house by another friend.  Lucky me.  What was I supposed to do with them?  I couldn't leave them on the front lawn, so I let them stay the night.  I wasn't going to tell me parents but my other friend, Lee, told me that I really should.

So, I told them the next day.  It was not pretty.  It was pretty bad, in fact.  But to this day I don't know if I would have done anything different.  I do understand why my parents were upset, though.  What did the neighbors think?  

This is how I felt about the mistake last night.  What would my friends think?  It involved facebook!  

I still worry- a bit.  But, I know my daughter so well and I know that she regrets her decision.  She was not informed, was hasty and trusting and yet there was no way to rectify the situation.  I felt sick for her.  She could not stop crying and she is not a crier.

So, we move on.  Life is too short to worry about what people think.  Millions of people will make mistakes today and my news is already old news.:)


Lindsay-ann said...

Lori, I am so sorry you had dramas yesterday. I hope everything has calmed down now and that what happened is history. Nothing could ever happen that would make me think bad of your family. I know you all too well and what amazing people you are, that's why I love you so dearly. Sending a hug. Lindsay x

Tristan said...

poor girls,ugh..who cares what people think!!! ya'll are the sweetest!

Ruby Red Slippers said...

Sorry to hear that--Glad your daughter has you to walk her through this-

Lori said...

It is always hard when we see that our children are experiencing difficult situations . . . this too shall pass and she will be a much stronger and wiser young lady. Of course that isn't very comforting while she is going through it, but she has awesome parents who love her and all will be well. I hope she is feeling better and happy soon.

Heather said...

Give her our love!

danielle @ RLR said...

Nobody every warned me how hard (on the heart) parenting can be...


I know ALL about making mistakes.


michelle edwards joy said...

Its hard growing up and sometimes being a grown up. Your daughter is lucky to have a Mom like you!!

val said...

well said. Drama is sadly a part of life. We learn from it and move on. I'm hoping that with a few more days, she will feel better.