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Mysteries, polka dots, California Rolls, TJ Maxx, cozy blankets, rainy days and getting the first spoonful of peanut butter out of the jar make me smile. Spiders, rude people, cold fingers and toes, baby leashes, people that don't wrap their packages before going to the Post Office, poison ivy and Math (pretty much all of it) make me want to scream. My perfect day would be spent with my wonderful husband and sweet girls- watching movies in our jammies! Of course, having the movie theater to ourselves would be great, too. Please pass the popcorn and M&M's.:) I am saved by the grace of God. He is my constant companion and hears my every prayer. What a blessing! I'd love to hear from you! Lori at toosillysisters@cox.net

Thursday, August 15, 2013

being heard

We had an incident at the pool the other day.

It was a classic case of Bullying 101 accompanied by a misdemeanor of There's 20 of us and only 3 of You so Fear This.(Maybe not that many but it felt like it.)

I despise confrontation but I hate bullying even more. Sometimes you just have to put your big girl pants on and be the grown-up.  (even when you want to strangle a punk group of kids.  that have a wicked attitude.  and are proud of it.)

The lifeguards and manager got involved and things were resolved quickly- thank goodness.

So glad that's behind us!

But then we went back to the pool today and guess who was there?
Yep, the Get-a-long Gang.

I spotted them immediately and thought-
What do I do now??

A story from camp flashed into my mind and I knew what I had to do.

I had to talk to these children.  Because that's what they were- children.  Not gang members (right?) or drug dealers (please??).  

They were kids.

I was shaking.  Would they listen to me?  (God walked me over there and put the words in my mouth.  Yes. He. did.  Thank you, Lord.)

I re-introduced myself.  (Our last meeting involved looks that could kill as they stomped by my pool chair and then the ever popular spitting in the pool.  Classy.)

I told the group of 7 that this was all a big misunderstanding.  There were a lot of people at the pool the other day with tons of talking and confusion.

And then I told them my summer camp story.  The one where I stared daggers at a girl.  Her whole cabin was scared of me!  Truth.  Hey, she'd been flirting with a guy I liked.  And he had flirted back- with both of us!  Hiss. In the end (after I explained my side of the story to her) we became fabulous friends.  That poor boy never knew what hit him!  In fact, she found me on Facebook not too long ago.:)

At this point, the teenage big sister started listening.  She knew all about this kind of story.;)

Then I let these kids tell me their side of the story.  (Yes, it was ridiculous but that's not the point here.)  Perhaps this is what they wanted all along?  Just to be heard.

The story didn't end with a friendship, but it did end in peace.  We had a fun day, no one was bullied and I got to read my book.  Thumbs way UP!:)


Tristan said...

way to handle that!

Lindsay-ann said...

Hi Lori, so sorry to hear about the trouble at the pool but glad it was resolved. I can't imagine those girls at your camp being scared of you, you are the most unscary person I know! Makes me giggle to think of it though. Lindsay x

amy @ Life in Pink Hi-Tops said...

Wonderful response! So glad God walked and talked with you that day.

Lindsay-ann said...

Hi Lori, I thought I had commented here but don't know where it went! I am sorry there was trouble at the pool but glad it worked out in the end. I really can't imagine the girls at camp being scared of you. You are the most unscary person I know. It makes me giggle to think about you being scary though! Have a great weekend. Lindsay x

Anonymous said...

You're such a good Momma :) Miss you so much... theres TONS of fun stuff to do in OKC... we even have a floor you can borrow :)
<3 Angel